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Are you recruiter enough to handle a MILH?

Are you recruiter enough to handle a MILH like me?

Sorry guys, but MILH’s (A Mom I’d like to Hire) are the evolution of the human.   They have figured out how to be sarah-white-bio-pic2educated, innovative, and articulate, keep up to date on their industry, balance a life, an amazing career (that’s right Career, not job) and be a great mom!

We have heard so much about the Boomers and Millennial’s and the impact they are having on organizations – but seriously – why isn’t anyone talking about the MILH’s? (To be more PC, which I HATE BTW, I will from here on out call them Hybrid Moms)  There are thousands of them out there right now – more qualified than the junk resumes coming off the job boards – sitting waiting to be tapped on the shoulder by a company that wants to make them an offer they can’t refuse.  AND…let me let you in on a secret….MILH’s don’t care all that much about the $$ -they care about their hours, their impact and their role –  which in these times, makes them an AMAZING find – IF you know how to sell them back to your organization.

How do I know it can be done?  Well, before becoming a Hybrid Mom/MILH… I was a damn good recruiter.  I was the type of recruiter that got recruited into the corporate world to train other recruiters on how to do kick ass now and take names later type of recruiting.  My first week of college I happened to have lunch with a recruiter from Arthur Andersen who started talking about his job – I started to fall in love (with his job – not him!)  Hearing about the rush of the search, the thrill of a placement and gaining the understanding that each and every day what you do shapes the future of an organization was an emotional rush, exhilarating and it gave me butterflies – like meeting your first love, or a giant brownie turtle sundae topped with whip cream and a cherry after a week on the South Beach Diet.

It was that day I was chosen by the universe to come into the recruiting world.

However, I was not always a Hybrid Mom.  I was just a normal employee & mom.  The one who came back to work the day after getting out of the hospital from having my baby and had a husband that stayed home to do the cooking & cleaning (Seriously – It happened!) kind of employee.  One who missed out on the first steps and the colic (wait – is that  really a bad thing?!?) and the other things that I only watched on video because she worked 60+ hours a week and traveled like a stewardess,  type of employee.

However, I was fortunate to work for and with a few really innovative companies that embraced the idea of flexible scheduling (For everyone except recruiting) and I was constantly on the lookout for MILH’s, I mean Hybrid Mom’s, and I watched other companies (and recruiters) pass up amazingly qualified women because they wanted more flexibility such as working at home a few days a week or a part time schedule.  I listened to the other recruiters (those without kids) laugh at the idea that someone could actually have a meaningful role in an organization and work part time.   It was then I started to see the business case for Hybrid Moms – the impact they can have on an organization and the $$’s they can save the bottom line.  If you can have a MORE qualified employee who wants to make LESS money and not get involved in all the office gossip/politics, but just do their job – think of the productivity!!   In 2005 I was laying in the hospital on bed rest with my 2nd baby, working on a statistical analysis of an organization’s turnover reporting and realizing that working that hard kinda sucked.   It was that day – I became a MILH/Hybrid Mom.

picture12 Now, I feel like the queen of the MILH’s.  The next generation of Hybrid Mom.  I am a SAHM (For all of you not in the mommy brigade – that means Stay at Home Mom) that just happens to have a pretty sick position as Chief Strategy Officer of HRMDirect while the kids are in school.  I can’t imagine a better situation than what I have. I love driving the kids to school, coming home and knowing that I can work in my pajamas and it doesn’t matter – or that I can hit the gym at 11 for Pilates because I have a mental road block or I can take a relaxing shower to think through a tough decision (now you are just getting jealous so I will stop).  But it also means that I can work at 11 pm after the kids are in bed if they had a school play or I went on a field trip and that I never stop thinking about work.  When I decided to leave the consulting world this Spring I knew I had two options.  Be a SAHM or find another job that let me be a Hybrid Mom.  So my primary objective was to continue to lead the double life of a SAHM and MILH – I love being a part of my kids lives but I HATED being part of the scrapbooking club and doing “stroller workouts” that the other SAHM’s in the neighborhood did.

Why should you want to hire a MILH/Hybrid Mom?  Simple – Hybrid moms are the answer to some of your recruiting & budget challenges.  We MILH’s are waiting to take your jobs – if your company is savvy enough to attract them!   However, most recruiters are like my coworkers from so long ago – thinking that someone who wants to work part time is lazy or has no passion & drive.  We are educated, experienced, work harder in 4-6 hours a day than most of the staff works in 8-10, are loyal to the company and (from a company’s perspective) are cheap – we typically want 25-30% less than someone working just a few hours more a week.  Social networking sites like Twitter (See twittermoms.com), Facebook and the ever popular mom board Babycenter.com and ParentCenter.com will open the doors to a whole new world of candidates that aren’t even out there applying, but are more qualified than what is coming across your desk – IF your company can convince them to come on board and YOU can convince your company of the overall business value.  If you can’t – then the superstar talent will pass you up and kick ass for your competition…

So, I will ask again…Can you Mr. Recruiter handle a MILH like me?

About Sarah White:

3112 Sarah White is Chief Strategy Officer for HRMDirect, Guru at FindHRInfo.com (launching this summer), writer of Gen Y’d blog on ERE, author for various blogs/websites and overall is just an always interesting, frequently random, often unfiltered, sometimes goofy, occasionally genius and never apologetic type of girl who loves flip-flops.  She is a proud mom to 2 amazingly smart and talented children, has a boxer named Kona and loves music, martinis (and wine) and anything out doors (Hiking, Rafting, Camping…)!  She has been involved in the HR/Recruiting World for more than 10 years and has a degree in (I will stop – its not like you really even cared about the boring stuff!)

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  • Thanks for a very cool posting Sarah! MILH will be the new "term" her in my office I'm sure.. :)
  • Thanks for the Posting Sarah! Very cool and interesting take. Great posting to kick off the carnival!
  • Sarah - The first thing that came to mind is HURRAY!! As a SAHM/Hybrid MLH, I applaud you,agree wholeheartedly, and welcome the change over to a more open and flexible work force. Now if I could only get my hiring managers to see the same light....
  • Sarah,
    Thanks for getting Hybrid Mom even more into the public eye. Clearly we agree with you, as we've been building our company and community around many of the principles and qualities you've mentioned. We'd love a nod any time you mention it in the future...as we continue to build the movement!
    Thanks! And keep up the great work!!

    Robin

    PS: What's your twitter name? I couldn't find you and would love to follow you. We are @hybridmom -- feel free to follow us!!
  • Sarah White
    Robin -
    I will check out the site when I get home! My twitter is @sarahw79 and will include you on the list next time I do a similar topic!

    Sarah
  • AWESOME post Sarah - lots of value indeed, especially if you've ever tried to convince a Hiring Manager to see a full-time SAHM with an awesome background and personality!

    @fieldsy4life
  • Sarah, nice kickoff for the blog carnival and hope my post tomorrow will be as appealing! My wife is an MILH who has been too much of a SAHM for her liking, given her very fulfilling, high-profile career before kids. (She finds the live interaction with adult colleagues to be a vital part of the work experience.) She holds down two part-time gigs now. When our youngest finally enters a full day school schedule this fall, I imagine she'll rethink the professional fulfillment level of her jobs and decide what she *really* wants to do, but realizing our kids remain an important part of our lives, it will require some scheduling flexibility. (I'm a SAHD who has a fulfilling job, which is partly how we can juggle three boys' schedules with minimal babysitter help.) However, I agree that hybrid moms have fantastic skillsets that any employer should want -- for starters, my wife is the most organized, together person I know. I know some companies that appreciate "returning mom" talent and have dedicated programs for that (e.g., Deloitte) so hopefully it is a snowballing trend.
  • Kate
    Such an awesome post! This is so inspiring for the slightly younger generation like me. (20) Society is telling us all the time to choose career/family. I want it all and I don't plan on half-assing any of it! Go get em' I know I plan on it!
  • Sarah White
    Glenn - Thanks, but I am confident yours will be great - likely more polished, and at least as appealing. It is amazing the number of MILH's we have around the industry - yet so few companies want to acknowledge they exist! Does the Deloitte program allow for part time hours still or is their returning program still only full time?

    Kate - I really appreciate that! I am in the last week of my 20's and think that our generation will be the ones shaping the future soon enough....just wait and help me lead the ride!
  • Bravo Sarah. Very enlightening post. I'm getting so use to only 140 characters I'm kind of speechless now.
  • Hi Sarah -

    Great article! My friend has a service that puts college grad moms together with part-time projects. I believe some traditional jobs will go away and be replaced with consultants that are more project oriented/results oriented. Perfect segway for the MILH/SAHM.
  • Kelly Dingee
    Great post Sarah.....I'm right there with you in the trenches...having been a SAHM/Hybrid Mom since 1998 due to my 2nd daughter and an amazingly forward thinking boss.

    Can't wait to see what you write next!

    Best,
    Kelly
  • Sarah White
    Gretchen - What is the name of her company? It would be great if you could list a link to her website. I also believe that the project oriented people is where we are going to see careers move in general - not just for MILH's

    Kelly - Thank you so much - you can check out my regular blog on ERE at http://community.ere.net/blogs/gen-yd/ and coming soon - I will be starting up a blog on HR Technology...

    Sarah
  • I enjoyed the post. It should serve as fuel and inspiration for moms to market themselves creatively and strategically to companies willing to flex employee agreements. ~Karla
  • Matt Jones
    Sarah - The average stay at home parent would make $120,000 a year if they were actually compensated for their work. I don't know many men that could balance the activities that MILHs do. I like the part about being able to hit the gym or taking a hot shower to contemplate a tough decision, I'm going to put a full bathroom in our new office after we move out of our temp space!

    Matt
    @matthewjones23
  • Carol
    What a great post! I've been working with my hiring managers for years trying to push this idea. I truly hope this catches on more in more corporations.
  • Sarah White
    Karla - Thanks! Absolutely- I am a true believer if you want something bad enough you can have it!

    Matt - I know! Unfortunately, I would be fired if I was a full time SAHM - not that good at all the domestic stuff like cooking, cleaning, etc. Having a shower/gym area is great...having a culture that allows that to actually be used - amazing! (priceless would have been just too cheesy)

    Carol - Thank you - it is hard to push to people that just don't get it. I hope as it becomes more acceptable - they will start to relax and consider the options.
  • Michael Goldberg
    Sarah-

    Awesome article that really hits home. My wife stays at home and she was lvoing your thoughts. With the current economy and even into the future, more MILHs will be needed. Moms are the most organized project managers who have both the people management and project management skills accomplishing the daily "to-dos" that need to run a household and for those who are hybrid...deliver their services to their customers. Sorry Dads/Husbands, the stay at home and hybrid moms and the full-time moms who work complete us in every way and we should appreciate that. I look forward to more posts about MILH and how we can get them hired into so it works for everyone.
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